I don't think my H could tell me enough times in a day how sorry he was - that reassurance is paramount! over and over and over and over
My H has finally begun to see that is what I need to get through this. By doing it, he has also realized it is helping him (and has commented on how he's feeling stronger the last couple of days). It's because he is releasing his pain too. His main issue is the guilt and by saying (sincerely) that he is sorry about how he crushed my world, it is helping him release that guilt he has. I am not responsible for his pain, he has to deal with that, but I can't hold on to being vindictive and wanting to see him hurt like that forever. Yes, there is a part of me that wants to see the pain in his face, so it validates my hurt, but at the same time, I love the man and if that is the case, I really don't want to see him suffering like that either. It's a fine line
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
