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GC, I feel for you when your H says those mean words. Don't take the following words as advise, I just want to say it. Maybe he'd think you're serious if you just disappear for a day or two and tell him to call you when he's ready to trust you. We're on different ends of the rope here so it's really difficult to say what if any will convince your H of how sorry you are.



Thanks for the advice, however.....if I disappeared (or went on any trips without him) he has already told me that he would leave for good. I've walked away a few times just from conversations and he's gone ballistic.

I'm trying to hold on to him. Today is a VERY bad day. We had a great night and morning (ML several times! ) But then maybe because it was so great, that's why he's not happy this AM.

I get a call at work with "How could you do this to me you sick bitch?" and "F you for lying to me". When he got really bad, I told him I had to go. He hung up. Called back in a couple of minutes saying "I'm angry and you're upset, let's not be".

Then asks "What am I supposed to do? Just swallow the fact you did this to me? Just because you say you want it NOW, makes it all better?" This is the hardest thing for me to answer. I tell him that I love him and he keeps throwing the "Yeah Now" back in my face.

He hung up on that call and called me back again. I thought the conversation was going to go better a third time, but it didn't and he hung up a final time and hasn't called back.

I'm not calling him. He's angry and I get upset (even though I know I'm supposed to detach). Anyway, what would I say if I called back?

I keep telling him that I want to move forward and he's stuck in two areas:
1. That I haven't disclosed everything - he thinks there is more information about the A that is in my head. Mainly because I didn't give him everything straight out the first time (it took a couple of months....I know BAD!)
2. That I lied to him for so long and how is he supposed to "let me think that it's OK to treat him that way".

Any insight from Sol, Wedge, OSU....I would greatly appreciate....