Quote: see that's what I don't get. I have cut off all ties with OM, it happened one time, it is not a continuing "thing" and I do want to make it work - and for some folks here, they'd be ecstatic, but it's not enough for H. I know not to expect too much too soon - or to really expect much of anything - it just sucks.
It's most likely your H will come around and forgive you no matter how your relationship is settled. My WAW is in denial, but is still carrying on her EA. I have forgiven her even in the face of this ongoing EA. I have come to a point where I'm at peace and have moved on. I'm on very friendly terms with her now and we have great cooperation between us when it comes to our S6 & SS14. One of the catalysts in getting me to this point was time to myself. A lot of time! It's a series of emotions have to feel, recognize and overcome. It's a battle you fight within yourself. Hope vs despair, fear vs bravery, self-doubt vs confidence, love vs hate, anger vs forgiveness. It's exhausting, but there is a conclusion and a winner.
Your even in a better position to regain your H's faith, love, and forgiveness because you have choose to end the A and stand for your marriage.
My advice would be to give him a lot of time and space. He'll come around sooner or later and will forgive you. That battle will rage in him until a winner is declared and the negative emotions will be rejected. That notion that love always triumphs in the end is true.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
