I don't know how you go from day to day with the OM still in the picture. That was #1 priority in our M for me to stay and try and work through things - she had to go - 100% and NOW!! I am not about to try and compete with someone else. So far (which has only been a couple of weeks) he has remained true to his word (although it must be a little easier for him being she is in another city - 3 hour drive from here) however, he also claims he has not even called her. I guess time will tell when I get in his cell bill and check it (he doesn't know I have access to it online). I hate having to do it but it gives me reassurance that he's telling the truth, which he also has had a lot of problem with over the years. It's like he thinks I'm his mother and going to punish him. There are so many other issues in his life other than the OW - too many to count. But at least he is trying and going to counselling in the meantime. He is also on AD and that seems to be helping him cope too. He is still a basket case emotionally though and as cruel as this sounds, it is helping me to heal a heck of a lot quicker because I can see his pain and know I am not the only one suffering in this R.
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
