Thanks. One of the issues with us is I lost weight so he finds me somewhat attractive but the OM made me a running schedule so he sees my weight loss for OM and not anyone else. I don't blame him but I don't know how to show him it wasn't for him. And how do you make yourself attractive to someone who is repulsed at "the new you"??
UA: I lost weight just dealing with this issue (40 lbs) and my H keeps telling me how much he likes the new me. But that doesn't stop the "is it for someone else" questions. I wouldn't tell him that it's your stress that's causing it, it will seem like you are blaming him. Part of my problem was always self esteem - so I tell him that weighing less is something that makes "me" feel good. Not turning to anyone or anything else to do it.
I was losing the weight before all of this happened. Actually the OM had made up a running schedule for me that I started following (Bad I know) and I lost about 20 lbs before this all happened....so he sees me now as a new person who disgusts him. He doesn't like the new me - all his words of course.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
