Hello, thank you for your reply. My husband does know my friend very well. He met her right before we got married (11 years ago). I was hanging around her for 2-3 years before we both started going out and partying. Since we started speaking to each other again, he has been around her many times. She came over to our house a couple of times, we went to Chicago to visit her in August, she let my husband and I stay at her apartment when I was running the Chicago marathon etc... He has seen us together and he knows that I do not go out with her and get crazy. He knows that she has a terrific job working at a surgery center in a hospital. We have done nothing out of the ordinary together. We went to dinner once, went to yoga class with our friend Karen, walked the dogs when she came in town etc.. We talk on the phone and we e-mail each other. The problem with my husband is - he does not like her - never has. Anytime I do anything with her, he "invents" reasons to be mad at me. He says that I don't answer my cell phone etc.. One Saturday, he said he was going to take our son and his cousin to the race track. I was going to yoga that morning with my friend and our other friend Karen. I knew he and the boys would be gone at the track for probably a good portion of the day. After yoga, my friend and I went to get some lunch, went to a nursery and bought some flowers, and then went to the Humane Society to pick up her dog that she was adopting. At around 3 pm I see on my cell that my husband called. I call him back and I tell him where we are at (Humane Soc.) He is mad - I can tell. He tells me that he could not get ahold of me and he was not able to take the boys to the track b/c he does not have any cash. I said "you did not tell me that you needed money, why didn't you go to the bank before noon and get money out of our checking?" (Our bank is open on Saturdays til noon). There was plenty of money in there. "Why do you not know your pin # for your ATM card?" If you knew your pin, then you could have taken money out at any ATM. He was basically insinuating that it was my fault that they did not get to go. What does he expect me to do drive all the way from the northside of town (where I was at) to the southside (where we live) just so that I could give him cash? This is just one example out of hundreds that I could share. I am sorry if I am going on and on - but it is so nice just to be able to get this off my chest. I really don't tell anyone about all this - just my friend and my sister. I would appreciate any and all advice. I am really at the end of my rope. I feel that I have tried to fix this relationship and I just cannot. He will find a reason, any reason to get mad at me when I do things with her or talk to her.
