Cheater needing assistance

[~Sol]

but maybe I could get some advice on how to SHOW him that I mean these things.

As far as earning your trust back, this is exactly what you need to do - SHOW him.

I have been struggling with my W's A also, and she wants to keep OM as a friend, which I don't like. My W's words are one thing, but I have a hard time believing half of what she says. I really wish that everything she says about loving me is true, I want to believe her, but I have a better chance of trusting her more if she commits more to actions than words. I need for her to spend time with me, in and out of the house, for her to call me more just to say she's thinking of me. Basically, just doing things for me and for us as a couple will help in earning my trust in her faster than just words can. I feel better when we talk and sit lovingly next to each other, and ML more often than usual. My W needs to SHOW me she wants me, and for guys doing things carries more weight than talking.

Hope this helps, I know it helps me!