Well, in that case find a way to validate him useing you and us.
Never get defensive.
If you tried using I statement switch it up a little bit.
Like I said. "I understand how YOU feel" Or I can understand why you feel that way. Or Yes I was a "Fill in the blank".
Just do not give him anything to argue about. If you agree with him then he can not argue. But you have to becareful not to let his harmful words hurt you.
Maybe it is as simple as "I understand how you feel. Is there anything I can do for you to change that perception"
Remember he is just hanging on to the past right now. It will take him a while to get out of it.
Very sticky sitch you are in. It really does suck. But I am proud of your for giving it up and working to save your M. I just wish my W had half the brain that a lot of you gals have. She does not realize what she is doing and probably won't until it is too late. One can only put up with their crap for so long before they just get fed up and have to move on for themselves. Just saddens me.
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Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
