Quote: So how do I respond when he says he lost me and or you've destroyed us?
Whatever you say do not make it defensive. Defensive = Bad...Just agree and talk about how you are working on yourslef to correct those issues. Just remember to use I statments not You or US. Keep it about you do not have to agree with him, just try to keep it as you know how he feels and you know that you hurt him. It really seems like that is what his is looking for in a very twisted way.
You need to prove to him that you are not that person anymore and there is no way in hell that you are going to be able to do this in words. Actions speak louder than words.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
