It is very difficult. Is it fair? Hell No. Does it crush our spirits when our WAS's lash out? Hell yes.
Here is the question you need to ask yourself.
Do I want to continue this fight to save my M even though my H is very upset w/ what I have done and is treating me like total crap right now? I can not answer that one for you only you can.
If you want to save your M unfortunately you will have to put up with this for a while.
Have you tried to act like what he is saying does not bother you? My bet is "No". Like I said it takes two people to argue. Take one of the people out of the equation and the fight becomes boring and pointless.
Maybe even try this...
H: You are a frickin slut! GC: I am sorry you feel that way.
Just an example I was not actually saying you are a slut...
Just validate his feelings and do not give into him. Once he is finished go somewhere and cry your eyes out if you have to. Eventually you will not give a crap what he says to you. It is all about not giving him the rise that he wants right now. He is treating you like crap but he is hurt inside and it will take him a while to heal. I am not saying that what he is doing is right. Just be the strong one and not let his emotions or words bring you down. You are too good of a person for that.
Keep you head up and I am sorry that you are going through all of this crap right now.
Later, O
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
