gotta_change: I ran across this post over in Sigh's thread and it just hit me. The details and timeline are so close together. I'm almost scared to ask if you're the OMW?
Quote: Sigh: Oh wow, we are both going through some similar stuff. My H actually started having an EA with an ex-girlfriend 8 months ago. He was "working through it" and now he's saying he's just friends. He'll never admit it was an EA. But they talk daily and meet up every now and then. Her husband knows, didn't like it now I think she hides their calls/texts from him.
After a few months of the EA, he asked me to share with him any of my secrets (I think because he was feeling guilty about his EA.) So I dropped the bomb on him about my A (two of them). One happening was going on at the time I dropped the bomb. He did not stop his EA. It might have strengthened it. Either way, I told him that it was probably jealousy that made me tell him. Plus the fact that I really did want us to be together. (Good news for LBS - seeing our men with OW does get to us)
So, the whole X-mas present to her is something he's saying that I have no right to stop him. He already gave it to her.
I sucked it up. Not sure if it was the right thing to do - but I had the guilt thing going as well. He's saying she's helping him through this by being just a friend, not an EA. I know its a bit of both. I'm not stupid. He does throw it in my face to hurt me, then tells me that he's only doing it because it's the one thing he knows that bothers me.
Your H may be getting the attention/feeling of self worth from this OW because of your bomb. You may want to discuss that with him.
