Well - mainly because it's his philosophy "If I feel a bit weird about hiding something, then I shouldn't hide it". The reason I told him (Yup - I already called....didn't want to sit on it too long), was because I had a second hesitation thinking "Oh well, it's just a friend calling...what's the harm." But since there is a slight weirdness about it, since I kept this friendship from him - anything I hide about it would be harmful.
I don't know - it seemed logical to me when H described his thoughts on sharing. No weirdness = OK not to share, anything weird = Probably should be sharing.
Phone call went OK. I told him, reassured him that there was nothing there (basic fear that it was some type of A) and that it was no different than if one of the other people on the "bad friend" list had called.
I just wanted to let him know about it and not keep it from him. He asked how's that supposed to make me feel? I told him that he was supposed to feel that I was sharing and that it was nothing of consequence.
He couldn't really talk, so after I informed him of this....I was basically out of small talk. I think that makes him a bit angry, he wants all of this communication from me and I have problems sometimes coming up with anything other than I'm sorry and I will do anything and everything to make this better.
