Cheater needing assistance

[osu43130]

I usually tell him that I don't want him to go, that I will do anything he wants for me to show him that I mean it (like quitting job)

Sounds like begging. Take UA's approach. Tell him how you feel and then let it go. You do not have to keep repeating yourself everytime he threatens to leave. Heck it seems like he does not believe you anyway. Show him that you are trust worthy. Words only go so far. AS a LBS we are also told to not believe anything that we are told and only half of what they do.

should i give him advice on how to "deal with my A"? He has only one person who he can talk to about this, but I think he's stopped due to the stress on that person.

I would say no. As a man I would take that as you telling me that I am an idiot and I do not know how to deal with my own problems. Typical guy physco babble. I have not read you whole sitch but have you asked him to go to MC? Might be a way to get him to open up a little bit. Sorry if I missed the fact that you are already going.

I've said that I want to help him "fix" it, but then I also tried to gently remind him that I couldn't crawl inside his head to make it stop hurting.

Again it goes back to not believing anything you say and only half of what you do. You need to show him that you want to help fix the M not tell him. Remember, Actions are alot more important that words.

Later,
O