As far as advice for him wanting to leave, here's what I"ve told my H. Mine is more related to D, but you get the picture.

"I love you. I don't want a D, but if you think that's what you need, then I guess I'll have to go along with it but I don't want it."

I have come to the conclusion that they really don't care what we want right now. We wronged them. They're hurt, their defenses are up.

I'm glad you had a few God McNuggets - sorry for the one negative. I swear your sitch sounds SO much like mine, it's creepy!

oh yeah and what everyone else keeps telling me - have patience, give it time.

....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am
I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon
~ Avril Lavigne ~
..."Nobody's Fool"...

me=ok /D'd since 7/07
D=ok