I've become addicted to these boards.

And the advice I hear given to the BS - detach and let the OS come to you. So, I'm coming to him. And I'm telling him that I love him and want things to work. When I tried to validate his feelings he responded with "Oh sure, now the counseling session has begun...." very sarcastic...

Since he's angry and hurt and saying things about leaving (but not actually doing anything about it), should I treat him like a WAS? Is he really walking away? He says he has to protect himself from further hurt - and has stated time and time again that he cannot forgive me. He MAY try to find a way to live with it, but he's having problems with that one.

Any advice on:
a) how to handle threats of him leaving? I usually tell him that I don't want him to go, that I will do anything he wants for me to show him that I mean it (like quitting job)

b) should i give him advice on how to "deal with my A"? He has only one person who he can talk to about this, but I think he's stopped due to the stress on that person.

I've said that I want to help him "fix" it, but then I also tried to gently remind him that I couldn't crawl inside his head to make it stop hurting.

Roller-coaster indeed....