Another really great book is "Not 'Just Friends.'" That book kind of explains how to talk about and deal with what happened (what's helpful to talk about, and what's not so helpful).

I think 180s (that aren't aimed at reassuring him) would probably be more appropriate if he's out the door.

For quite awhile I'd expect rough times while he tries to work through the whole thing. I imagine he'll probably test you alot, pull away, and may go through some radical ups and downs.


There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.