Sex with Soon To Be Ex During Divorce?

[maryfromaustin]

hi there. happy new year to you. haven't seen you post anymore this last month, hopefully you'll get this post.

i am going through the same situation as you. my H has been coming around more often but he avoids me as well. he's got me tip-toeing around him, it's making me nauseous to tell you the truth! i've made a commitment to myself for this year. no more walking on eggshells. i will say what is in my heart......within reason. i'm not going to tell him i miss him or i love him etc etc. we've been intimate a few times and those times have been confusing for me afterwards. i don't know what's up with him. does he want me back under certain conditions. does he just want sex with me. I DON'T KNOW! he still wants the divorce. he told me he postponed it because he couldn't afford his lawyer. new year new rules. what's to say he's ready to move forward in court this month? we haven't tried anything regarding our marriage. we've talked but nothing else.

i did manage to think things through. if i don't feel comfortable being intimate with him then i won't do it. i'm not helping myself at all by doing it. he's obviously not staying home for good. i'm just using my body to make him happy for a few moments. new year new rules! i managed to be "alone" for over 4 months. i think i can manage that again. i've been seperated for 9 months now. i'm missing him more than ever (holidays). but i cannot and will not go another year with this heartache.

"it's a crazy rollercoaster ride that i can't seem to get off of".....


me = 33
H = 35
kids = 3
bom = march 24
he filed = april 20