Tiel: I am so glad because your h baby steps... if you had read my stories you know i am also living in some way the same situation as you... rebuilding and trying to feel not insecure... I told you a good story about my h wedding ring in my post Happy birthday and Happy rebuilding... if you can, read it and give me your opinion...!!... Yes we were so secure and pass all this... so now, after all the turmoil and direct evidence, seems like impossible not being insecure... i think we still need to work a lot on us... on ourselves.... Good luck and stay in touch... i wish more baby steps will be around your marriage...