The weekend "date" that I had planned for H finally happened after having to be rescheduled after H's uncle died. It turned out marvelously! I had several surprises planned for him. He was pleased and appreciated it all. He held my hand!! He hasn't done that in a long time. Told me once back in April when his head was still way up his A$$ that if I ever wanted to hold hands to just do it. Yea right. That needs to be initiated by him. I had to break down and ask H last week if he was just sticking around here waiting for youngest son to turn 18 in 4 years. He said a definite NO. I know, I know we aren't "supposed" to bring up this stuff but you get so tired of NOT KNOWING!!! This is my life too, not just his. Anyway, I'm taking a chance here saying that baby steps are being noted and H seems much happier than he did in Feb-May. All he wanted all along was the woman back that he married. I almost blew it. I could kick myself when I think of all the wasted time. Live and learn I guess. They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks.. Lisa


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