If Paul doesn't mind, I'll just add my Year in Review here, too.
This year has seen a complete turnaround in my attitude and major changes from my bf, too. I would attribute my changes to a couple of things. First, I've been reading a lot of Buddhism and nondualism (google it) stuff and it has given me a different perspective on my whole life, not just this R. I started attending my bf's C sessions every other week and got to express some heavy anger and resentment in the safety of his office. After I did that a couple of months ago, I saw major changes in bf. I think in the private sessions, the C must have pointed out that I was on the verge of cracking. Over a couple of weeks I saw a new gentleness, toning down of sharp remarks, more humor, more kindness, more affection... and it has continued.
I'm no longer thinking of bailing at all, let alone every day. Quite content, actually. Sex not an issue for me any more.
