That's great! Progress can be slow that's for sure, but you are learning how to interact with your W in a manner that works. It may not be exactly how you'd like it to be, but it works. That's pretty much how my H and I are too.
Since you did a Year in Review, I will too. As pretty much everyone who knows me on this BB will know, this year started out pretty rough (a few months in). Honestly, for about a 4-8 weeks or so, I didn't know if I would have what it took to work through our issues. However, finding out about what my H was hiding was the best thing that could have ever happened to our M. To think that I had spent three years married to someone who was hiding such a huge thing from me was really tough for me to get over, but I think I have. The other day, my H and I were getting ready to go out for dinner and he just stopped as he was walking by me and said "you are so beautiful, I mean...REALLY beautiful. I meant to tell you that the other day when I stopped by the dentist office and saw you in the chair and thought "she's really hot!" I think that may very well be the first compliment my H has ever given me that not only took me by suprise, but it also made me blush. We went out, laughed, joked, flirted....and had a wonderful time! I can't remember a time that I had so much fun with him....he genuinely appeared to be having as much fun as I was too!
A mere 10 months ago I would have never thought we'd be interacting the way we do now, or feeling the way we both do....but here we are. Are we boinking like bunnies? Nope, but we are ML more than we had in the past.....and the communication is there about it. At least now I know he wants to, thinks about it etc. It's as if our M has graduated to a deeper level, I think that's probably the best way I can put it.
