Out of the blue and back in again

[DebinDenver]

So what does it mean, if out of the blue, you recieve a warm fuzzy email from your walk away spouse, but then nothing?

The day before Thanksgiving, my H emailed after 2 months of no communication. He said he had a picture of me on his computer wallpaper (on the shore of Lake Michigan). He spoke fondly of our trip there. Said "we" a lot. He tells his friends "that's my wife" in the picture. Then wants to know if I am still his wife. I told him of course.

This was the first positive thing he had to say about us since he disappeared over 6 months ago.

But, to my frustration, the next email he sends is not warm and fuzzy @ all, but cold and uncaring. I suppose I did go a little overboard by talking about all the issues with the housing market after his warm and fuzzy email. Perhaps I shouldn't have done that. Hind sight is pretty clear.

How do you keep your comments in check? I mean I hadn't heard from him in 2 months. It felt like he was dead. The house went on the market and we all know what the housing market is like right now.

Even though in his old life, before he disappeared, he was a mortgage broker, he acted like he didn't have a clue about how awful the market is (I know he is on the east coast, so it's not like he doesn't have access to news). He told me he "didn't know what to say" about the market. But, he might as well have said "that's not my problem".

Deb