Hi, 25yrs, I haven't posted to you for awhile, but seeing your post on another thread, reminded me to come and seek you out. I read what kirby say about how you can be happy anywhere, and I agree. Even in AK, you can make yourself happy if you find there is someplace for your talents, so you won't feel you are going to waste up there. I mean you have the power to make your own situation positive, and even though your H may not all the way "get it", he at least says he wants to get it. Being seperate like you are is tough to be there for the day to day stuff that both irritates and makes you love him. And trying all you have in you to make it work is really what you may have to do. Is there any way you can check out what there is in AK for you to get involved in? Plus you say your littlest child is like her daddy in the things she is interested in? Well, the older one will be off to college soon, and you will have a whole lot of growing up for that little one to go. Heck she may fit right in up there and love it. It could be an exciting adventur for all of you, you and H, too. Okay, I get that H's can be bu**holes, but sometimes I think God made them that way on purpose to keep us on our toes. I am not saying to ignore the college-bound child's needs at all, just that she is going to be starting a new more grown up life, and yall can all fly to see her often, or she can fly up with some of her new college friends to visit yall. My niece is a college freshman this year, and she is still such a child in many ways, but she is still showing that new independence of the new adult. It's really cute to see. We all commented on it at Christmas, how she is so ultra sophisticated and just so beyond us and all her cousins. But she goes and spend a lot of time with her mother, whom she is as close to as your D is to you. She isn't very close, unfortunately, to her F, the cheatin' preacher, who married the woman he was having an affair with. Anyway, I think your kids seeing you and H really trying and sacrificing for each other, will hit home with them. Maybe you are doing all the sacrificing right now, but maybe that is what you need to do right now. And if you have a second, would you check out my thread and give a little input, because Rocco (Lord love him) is the only one posting on it at this time. L
P.S. My parents are absolutely infatuated with Alaska, and subscribe to Alaska magazine, and got us a subscription to it, to. If I could go there and drag my H's behind there, to, I would. It is so beautiful, and I love the sense of community I read about. L
