Piecing together, or not?

[25yearsmlc]

Hey All,

I can't post much b/c s20 broke his hand and dislocated his wrist snowboarding, had surgery for the 2nd time yesterday. A bad break for him, and far more complicated than we expected....Jesus, it looked really weird and he was in pain. I think he's liking the nursing care. But it's labor intensive, the kid can eat... If all goes well, he'll return to college Monday.

H went back to Alaska and things are good. I am sort of working on the 60/40 assumption I will be the one interviewing for jobs up there and trying hard to be open to what they might offer. If it doesn't far exceed what I can do here, I'll be quite put out. But my expectations are high. I think the one thing I can say about that place is that the talent pool is shallow. I just mean that a law degree is a bigger deal there than in LA. Heck, lawyers might even be less hated there.....hmm, no.

I can't say where that leaves me emotionally but I wanted to post one thought/question for all. As I review the past 19 months, I can only say I am still very disappointed in H. He was wrong to do all this. Okay. So, ummm, now what? I mean, for the sake of argument let's all agree for the moment that H is all wrong to have done what he did, to relocate up there just hoping/assuming we'd all join him after being alone so long. So he goes. He was there. Time passes and He is very lonely. He says he really really wants us up there and that he is sorry he hurt me/us, he "needs" us there, and he seems sincere. He said the phrase "begging you to join me" several times. With a few backslides, he was better on the holiday. At one point he was snotty and I gave him an earful. He was very contrite and appropriate and it helped me a lot. But back to my point.

Let's all be victims for a second. So, when the WAS/MLCer comes back, or wants the R to work....is there such a thing as resolving? Or do we just start over? And So what if we are right? What's so great about being right if you aren't together? Am I wrong to join him? If so, do I stay here, alone BUT right? What about d9, who likes many of the same things H likes to do, like archery, outdoors, etc.? How much value does having an intact family have? Having we all been saying, in effect, it's paramount? Okay, so let me have it folks.
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