Oh, you can do it - I just wanted everyone to be able to find your threads. One more attempt to explain: When you are reading the thread you want to 'link' click in the address bar so it highlights blue. Then hit Ctrl-C to place that text into the 'clipboard'. Now reply to your thread you want to insert the link into. When you are replying, click the little red URL text under the heading that says "Instant UBB Code". A window will pop up. In the window, click in the entry field. Then type Ctrl-V to place the text from the clipboard into your reply box. The window will change and say 'Script prompt". Type in the word 'link', or 'my old thread' or something like that.
This will result in the codes to create the link being inserted into your reply box. The text you typed should show up in red, and it should go to that thread when you click on it.
Now on to business, what about these recalcitrant spouses of ours?