Ellie – thanks for the reply! I always appreciate the medical insights. Thanks for the tips on the paper bag too, I actually wasn’t doing it right (taking deep breaths thinking it would work faster). I will ask my doc about those things. No, not taking anything licorice related but now you’ve got me curious – what does licorice do? I am really starting to think something thyroid related is going on. Last night I kept getting the shakes again and all night alternated between freezing cold and really hot/sweaty. It felt like what my mom describes with her hot flashes but I’m only 33 so I kinda doubt it’s that!
Last night was almost purely talk about H moving out, so I was in pretty bad shape from that too. The good news is he was totally fine with the financial stuff. I thought he was going to really freak out about that. So, we’ll split the house payment and all house related bills 50/50. He wants to come over once a week and do the lawn care and any house repair stuff rather than paying for that right now. He kept emphasizing that he wants to “take it slow” and “not rush into any decisions.” At first he wanted to really rush into running away so I guess that’s a good sign. I told him if he ever starts to resent doing these chores OR if it gets too hard for me to have him coming over once a week that we’d need to look at other options and he was good with that.
He kept telling me that this wasn’t about him dating other people or sleeping around, that it was about him figuring out what’s wrong with him. I guess that’s a good sign right? I couldn’t hold back the tears all that well, but I didn’t do any begging or pleading. I just told him I was sad and going to miss him, but that I’d be focusing on moving forward with my life.
We also talked about his two housing options. Both are with friends, but in one case he’d basically be renting a furnished guest room and all he’d move for now would be his clothes – the other is more of a master suite/studio apartment within a really big house. With the second option the guys that live there are all really young and in that “party all the time” mode, and H is trying to cut back on his drinking, so he thinks it wouldn’t be that healthy. I’m really not sure which is better for me. The first one he’d basically take his clothes and that’s it, so it would feel a lot more temporary. I don’t know if that’s good or bad… any thoughts??
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
