Totally separate topic so I thought I’d post it separately too…

Have any of you read the 5 Love Languages book/ listened to the CD? I am so glad I got it. Wish I’d gotten it about 5 years sooner…<sigh>.. but I am enjoying it. I did the quiz and found that my love language is “Quality time.” (I actually thought it would be affirming words). No wonder the withdrawing and looming separation are upsetting me SO much. I think that H mostly tries to communicate to me through “acts of service” (i.e. taking care of the house, cars, etc.), which was one of my lowest LL scores. I never thought of that as a way of expressing love. I feel awful now looking back at how MUCH of that he has done, and I never fully appreciated it. But I am grateful now to understand it’s an expression of love.

If he’s in a good, positive towards the R mood sometime I’m going to see if he’ll do the husband part of the quiz so I can find out what his LL is. Don't worry, I will NOT push him on this or even bring it up unless he brings up the R and talks about staying.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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