NikkiB's new thread, new life

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Hi Nikki. Sorry to poke the hornet's nest.

I'll quote kml here:

I wouldn't do it. However, it has been my observation that the hint of you going to an attorney might set him off - it often seems to. They suddenly feel like 'all right then, I WILL file, and this will get dirty". That's why I would keep it completely under the radar if you could.

This is what my perspective was in posting what I did. That if you did this and he found out, it might push him to be belligerent right back. That's why I'd be worried about him noticing.

So the problem is telling him or not tells him.

If you tell him, you might get that exact response. If you don't fine.

If you don't tell him and he never finds out, then fine.

But if you don't tell him and he does find out, then what?

Let me just say this. Early on in my sitch (early S) I consulted, and went to great pains
to make it as untraceable as possible (didn't even post that I'd done it here, that's how paranoid I was). Didn't want W to find out I'd seen L and have her do as kml wrote.

I'd just sit on this (telling him) a while. You don't have to decide right now do you?

Take care,