I think oldtimers recommendation sounds like a smart idea too. Definitely do one of the two.

And in regards to lying. I really am against that idea. I kinda did it in my sitch because the DB coach told me to be a little evasive, or mysterious, so I ended up fibbing a little and it bit me in the butt! So I don't recommend it at all. Always use the truth. You would want the same in return.

You know, you could use an act As If and when you get it in the mail you can tell him you got a cool package deal at work that you can both utilize (of course you want to get the most hours, not him though! if it comes to a D that is). You don't have to tell him you got it mostly in case he gives you a D, but you have other reasons like the estate and the will and stuff.

Act as if you thought he would think it be a good idea and a smart move.

That's MHO

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."