Thanks for the second on Oldtimer’s recommendation. Right now seemingly easy decisions aren’t so easy, so it helps to have people to bounce it off of.
Yes, we still live together. H says he’s moving out in January although he’s acting like he might not follow through. We shall see.
As for telling him – any thoughts on that? He won’t see the payment as it comes out of my check via payroll deduction, but he may see the info packet that they mail to the house. Even though he may not find out, I wonder if I should tell him. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it but I really don’t feel right hiding it either. I just want to make sure I convey that I’m not losing hope or trying to turn things uglier, and I’m not sure if there’s a way to do that in the same sentence as “I signed up for a prepaid legal service.”
If I do say anything, my plan was to tell him close to what I said here. That I signed up in case things don’t work out to help save on legal fees, and there’s a 6 month waiting period which is why I signed up now rather than wait. The funny/ironic thing about it is it’s a “family” plan, so he can use it too. We can use it for mediation, or if it gets to a point of needing separate lawyers we can each choose our own attorneys through the service (up until it’s final and he’s not “family” anymore… funny set up huh??). So although I signed up out of self preservation, it really is protection for both of us. And of course I’ll also mention I/we can use it for estate planning and such later on – he knows that’s been on my “to do” list for awhile.
What do you think?
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
