Quote: Anyway H was very "off" even on the way over there - he looked exhausted and beat down. I wasn't putting any pressure on him, just visiting with the family and stuff. Most of the time he wasn't even in the room with the family - he found stuff to repair at his mom's house so we all visited while he fixed stuff. Kind of weird.
At dinner he was such a jerk to me. It was like he put on some sort of filter where he couldn't even HEAR me.
Hi Nikki- Wanted to address this quickly. This reminds me of Thanksgiving. Right around then H started acting rude to me and annoyed at me for nothing. Found out he was really wanting his space. Also, on t-day, H was very strange... doing his own thing at our dessert bar. Later I gave it some thought and wish I had thought of this sooner, but I think he was acting like an a$$ b/c he was worried about seeing some relatives for the 1st time since this all hit the fan. He wasn't sure how the reaction was going to be so was trying to buffer himself and act like it didn't matter. Just a protection I guess. I realized that I couldn't take that all personally. It's about his insecurity and fears of disappointing people and being uncomfortable with the sitch he has created. So let it go, I know you are. And next time just remember that he is also having a hard time right now. Give him lots of space and no pressure. Just my 2 cents. Julie
