On the photo album, you’re probably right. I DO need to sort the photos and put them into albums so I’ll do that as one of my projects in the new year, but I’ll skip it as a holiday thing. Who needs the extra stress right now anyway right? I’m giving him a framed photo of him, his dad, grandfather, and brother that I think he’ll really like (same gift going to each of them).
Gifts this year are odd anyway – do we get thoughtful things like usual? Don’t get anything or keep it small? I’m not pushing him about it at all, but it’s confusing as heck. I’m just trying to go with things that he’ll like but are not “us” related. Thoughtful but not TOO thoughtful. He really liked his birthday gift so hopefully I do as well picking Christmas ones.
About trying to get H to see how messed up he is – you’re right. I should have been clearer, that conversation was quite awhile ago, and pretty early on in this whole process. I’ve gotten a lot more careful in my wording or knowing when to just say nothing since then. I really like your suggestion for how to speak up but do it in a more constructive way – thank you!!
Sometimes I wonder if it'd be easier if one of us was really mad at the other. This whole "just not sure" thing is so confusing!! I am working on detaching from it, but it's hard not to let it tear you up inside.
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Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
