(1) If you have to ask if a gift/letter/email/card/invitation is pursuing/too intimate/crowding/pushy/inappropriate/intrusive that is a VERY good sign that it is. If you have to agonize over it, then don't do it. So, skip the photo album. Don't worry, he won't forget you.
(2) Quit trying to get H to see how messed up he is. It isn't your job, and your perspective is very one sided. You don't really understand how he feels or what he is going through. Your efforts to try to get him to see things your way are misguided. This doesn't mean you shouldn't speak up, though. Instead, you should speak directly about YOURSELF. For instance, "I feel really angry because it seems to me that our R would have had a better chance if you were more open about your wants/needs.
