I think you should just let your attorney make the calls to him. That is what you are paying him for. Stay away from contact with your H. If he wants to call the kids, let him talk to them but you don't talk to him at all. I find when I do this, it is easier. I usually answer the phone and then say hang on and give the phone to the kids. This way I am not tempted to say something I may regret.
Let your attorney take care of everything. I know you didn't want to go down this road and I am sorry you are but I guess there is a time when you need to just let go. Let your H find out he made a mistake. He will have to do this on his own though. If you keep harrassing him, you just keep pushing him further away. Give him space and let go.
