She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

Thanks for the comments. I'm sure you're right, I think. Is it better to put your fears here (I'm sure it's better than discussing them with the W) or is it better to push all thoughts of OM out and not discuss it at all, or at least as little as is humanly possible?

My W seems happier, but I'm afraid it's because she is in contact with OM again. That would make her happy. She could easily be kinder to me at the same time. I've read some others posts, and see how nice the S can be while continuing an A. H@ll, my W carried on the A for 3 months without me suspecting.

So, I guess the point of all that is if she is having A, or in contact with OM, there is nothing I can do about it, unless I want to pull out the nukes and force the issue. And that would destroy me as well, so I guess I won't do that.

But it's not easy dealing with the fear, jealousy, and anger.

That said, I do feel I'm doing pretty well with this. I haven't snooped. I talk myself out of trying all the time (although she's making it easier by not giving me much of a chance). I'm staying positive in general.