funny, I liked DR better than DB as well. Anyhow, NO, I don't think that seeing positives in W is same as Not detaching. Detachment shouldn't mean being blind to our progress, I think it's part of taking stock.
And you are right about OM and your W. If it's not going to change your course of action, DROP IT.....at least for now, and take it a week at a time. Someday you can address the resentments, (as I expect to someday, even when I fight the "rearing up" that comes unexpectedly and can ruin "moments").
Just don't worry YET about those issues. For now, build on the good memories and feelings that are coming back. If all is going well with the kids and the inlaws, you have it so much better than most of us....(My mil and many other mil's around this bb are nightmares...but we'll talk about THAT later...).
It'll be very hard for your W to up and leave a kind loving man who is also a good father to her children....let alone leave her kids....So, bank on that and keep up the good work, as in, keep on keepin' on....you ARE doing well.
It's okay to feel good about that, I think. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
