She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

Thanks J,
I need the support to keep from doing something stupid. Although, I guess I'm lucky, 'cause I've been reading some other's posts, and the people advising them aren't nearly as tough as you, or TL, or GH are on me. I'm trying to make a joke, but I don't know if it's working. Anyway, thanks, I do need the 2x4s and reality.

So far so good. I could have snooped today, and didn't. I know you are right. Even if I find no proof, it'll mean nothing.

Today, my W and I had a talk about money. She has a retirement account that I think she considers as hers, not ours. I think that is her safety/freedom money. Using the speaker-listener skills we are learning in the communications class, I told her I felt she wants to keep that money seperate in order to have some freedom. She said it's our money and offered to give me the password and access too it. I declined to take it. If she gives it to me, I'll accept it. If she offers I'll decline because I think she is doing it because she feels she should. Regardless, I took it as a good sign. Good enough sign.

J, I hope your H and you make lots of progress. I'm betting on it. Although, I try to foster the mind set of "thy will be done" instead of "give me what I want". For you, I wish for the best for you.

And thanks for making the time to post something. It's greatly appreciated.