Quote: (but I want the OM gone for good so that we can really work on our M, and she can decide she wants to work on the M).
Kirby, this is mistaken thinking and it will send you down a very wrong path.
FORGET about the OM and whether he is there or not there. Yes, I know that is hard to do. But, if you really believe he is merely a symptom and not the cause of your W's discontent (as you indicate) then it's an illusion to think, that his absence will somehow free "us" (i.e. you and her) to work on your M. She is NOT GOING TO WORK ON YOUR M for the time being, I think you need to connect with that.
Your job right now is to work on you, to love yourself and to bring yourself to a stronger place. She is on a journey of her own and all you can do is smooth her path home. Whether or not she takes it is her decision, but you can make that easier for her if you back off.
Quote: I won't snoop. I'll keep working on me. I'll take the high road. I'll detach, finding my happiness inside myself, instead of through her.
'Cause it's gonna be a good Christmas. We are going to have fun, it'll be positive, unemotional, good time.
THAT'S more like it!!!!
Peter
This whole thing sucks, doesn't it?????? I wonder if Smurf's MLC lounge is open tonight - I think we all need some ice cold beer.
I wonder if Smurf's MLC lounge is open tonight - I think we all need some ice cold beer. 
