Just browsing around and thought I'd make a comment on something that struck me. It was your thinking that some changes are "too small." Coming from a woman who has pent many year in resentment with dirty dishes, unfolded laundry, and soap scum covered showers... ANY help is BIG help and is appreciated!! My H has begun pitching in (just a little) and it does WONDERS for my attitude. It makes me feel a little less responsible for EVERYTHING which is how I feel alot. That may play into your W's feelings of being responsible for your happiness. I know that part of my drive to keep things "just so" (money, laundry, cleaning, oil changes, holiday decorations) is that I know it makes my husband happy to do so. His mother is a regular Martha Stewart (the middle class kind!). Just wanted you to be aware that what you perceive as small change coule be BIG in her eyes. Be patient though. She may be suspicious of your motives. Just state "I know I need to help out more" and then, just do it. Don't expect accolades or rewards. Just do it out of the goodness of your heart (and if it's a 180!) it will be part of a positive domino effect. Have the kids pitch in too. Make a game of it, it can be fun!
Merry Christmas. Stay focused, stay positive - enjoy your family.
Lilypad
Me 31 H 33 (8 EA/PA in 12 years) S 6 D due in September! Together 14 yrs Married 3 years Bomb - threatened this week (repeatedly)
