She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

Hey j,
Yes, I know I'm impatient. I know I'm expecting too much, and wanting quicker pay offs. I'm doing a good job today of not talking to her, although I'd love to go downstairs and ask her how she is doing.

R talks. Since we are 'piecing', and b/c the MC says one of our problems is a lack of communication, and we are taking a communications class, it seems that, if she is willing, we should talk. That's part of the homework for the class. About a week ago, after an R talk, I got a sincere hug, without asking or initiating it. So, I kind of believe talk can be good.

BUT! I do most of the talking. I do need to shut up. My lame excuse (one of many) is that I'm still adjusting to all of this. She has been thinking about it for years. I've had the bomb dropped a couple months ago. I think I'm making progress; talking less, being less emotional, working on some positive times together, goal setting. I use this place to vent feelings I can't say to her, and to check my sanity. Yes, I talk too much, I'm expecting too much.

So I plan on NOT scheduling or initiating any R talks, especially over Christmas. I plan on listening if and when we do have a R talk. Meanwhile, I'll keep doing what I'm doing, even though it doesn't feel like nearly enough.

Am I more impatient than others have been or are?

Thanks J, and I hope it all goes well this Friday when your H comes back.