She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

Dear J,
I didn't mean to depress you or suggest you should give up. I'm glad you didn't take it that way, and that you are keeping your PMA. I was feeling angry, scared, and hurt. Better I tell you than my W though. I'm glad your sitch is looking up some.

I've found the book, the 5 love languages, in the library and I hope to have it soon. I'm ready to start reading again. I'm reading a book now, just started, that my W kind of recommended to me. It's called Passages, and it's about MLC. I think she recommended it to me. I'm not sure. It was subtle.

So I've got to avoid R talks when I'm emotional, and avoid emotional topics. Maybe if she brings one up, I can participate, but try and keep control.

My wife probably didn't feel loved by me. I wish I could make it up to her right now (too impatient).

My kids haven't acted out, or expressed much emotion at all over their parent’s situation. My W and I try to keep them as the main priority for both of us. My daughter has started to get a little clingy, but not much. She is also very careful, in my opinion, to show equal love to both W and me. My son is a teenager. He's pretty aloof right now. In response to a direct question, he did say he worries a little that mom might leave again. Do you really think that at some level they feel they have lost their mom? What can we do about it? Time I'm sure will help. Any other suggestions?

Thanks for your advice and for sharing.
k