K, None of what YOU said is irreparable. Interesting that she focuses so much on YOUR anger, and not the underlying reason for it....Geez, that is SO familiar....
I made a joke about (doing Stand up Comedy, I did NOT tell this to my H) the whole MLC and one thing I mentioned was how MLCers start making their lies into noble deeds....as in, "I WOULD HAVE TOLD YOU---BUT I DIDN'T WANT TO HURT YOU"---. Give me a break. (Can't recall the punchline but it got a big laugh....trust me, I'm FUNNY!!) Then being angry when I say we have to rebuild trust...H asked me impatiently "how long is THAT going to take?" Mind you he has been AWOL for almost 18 months...
Sort of reminds me of your W....hang in there and when you get a chance, try hard to see the insanity of it all. BTW, when we had been M for 9 years, my H was really busy at work, (more than usual and that is saying A LOT) and we were in the first Gulf War....Long weird hours with unusual stress and lots of intensity, which sort of seemed like romantic heroic passion at the time... I worked with a very handsome guy who paid a lot of attention to me. I did consider an A, but worked it out by talking to a chaplain, my family, etc. Point is, I could have had an A but for the Grace of God. What is soooo weird is that when I look back on that time, I was pretty crazy. THANK GOD I got a hold of myself. My potential OM and I had chemistry and very little else....yet I recall thinking of all the "passion" H and I had lost due to his hours, fatigue, etc.
About a year or two later my H and I reconnected well and regained our former levels of intimacy. Still, I look back at that time and wonder WTH was I thinking? So, sometimes I read these posts and I see myself, except that I didn't cross the abyss, and they did, and or they've been caught. It was not permanent. FWIW, I seriously doubt your W's A is either.
J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
