She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

I may be talking to myself today, but I consider it more of journaling than talking to myself, and if I talk here, maybe I can keep my mouth shut at home around the W.

So - I need to act and not talk. How to act, how to decide what to do? By setting goals. My goals are, 1) Be stronger, happier, healthier, better person. 2) Be a better father 3) Be a better husband.

I can be a better husband - or Friend to my W - by taking care of the first 2 goals and 1. being there when I'm needed. 2. taking care of stuff; finances, my job, house, etc. 3. Listen - if and when she feels like talking. 4. Make time for her and us to be together to talk, have positive experiences.

I can be a better father by taking care of goals 1 and 3, and 1. Make time to spend with kids 2. Listen 3. activities together 4. be there.

I can be a better person by 1. exercise 2. make my new job a great job that I can enjoy and feel like I'm accomplishing professional goals 3. be more social, spend more time with friends 4. Find activites that I enjoy that I can do (maybe Aikido, when finances allow).

Now I need to put target dates on more specific goals, and complete the list of tasks.

This is what I should have done years ago. It's a shame it took some hell like this to get me moving again.