Please do as the boys are telling you to do, stop the talk and just "do" the doing. Build on pleasant moments, especially when your W sees you with the kids. As a mother, seeing the interaction of the kids with H, their dad, is so touching to me, it is like emotional foreplay. No mother is unmoved.
Also know that there is no ONE sentence to say that will win her heart fully, no one event that ALL depends on. Just build up points in the "Pleasant company" category, and the "wonderful daddy" column too. Just build it up, without analysis. You won't be hurting her, you'll be doing a little "lifting". By "talking about the R" again, it's as if you are expecting immediate pay back, as in "did I do good? Is it enough yet? Do you love me again?" Too needy and too rushed. Let HER bring up R. This does not mean you cannot compliment her, or wink, or laugh at all her jokes. Just means don't expect fast results... you have to love her for the sake of loving her, not with your "wish" list.
good luck, have a peaceful, "playing with the kids" and "cookies for Santa" type of Christmas, (unless you are Jewish) and JUST BUILD on that for now.
just mho. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
