She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

Yes, she's working on the marriage, she's being polite. What do I make of all that? She just called and asked if I'd like her to buy the Christmas gift I'd decided on for my mother. I know that she doesn't like my mom. I know this is the type of thing she always took care of for us before. I was planning on taking care of this myself. I said that she could buy it, but she didn't have to. I didnt' want to refuse her favor, as she might find that insulting. But I don't want her doing things that she doesn't want to do, just because she thinks its the right thing to do. She's done too much of that.

Now, we seem to be good roommates, working on being good friends again. But that's what it felt like before she left. We were JUST roommates in many ways. Shouldn't we be trying to change that? I'm thinking that the difference now is that the problem is out in the open. Now we are working on it, going to MC. But it seems like a step backward, or at least not a big enough or fast enough step forward.

Patience. Faith.