She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

Peter,
I have been really lucky, blessed, to be getting such great advice. I've read your first and early posts. I hope your sitch is improving. I'd read all your posts but I really do need to work a bit at least this morning. But I couldn't get to work without replying to you.

From your early posts, I see many similarities with my sitch. Not a surprise, I know. I wish my W would give me a list of what I did wrong. I think my sitch has to get worse before it gets better. My W will say (maybe because she came back) that our M/R wasn't all bad, that there were many good times. She will also say that I'm a good person. I think she needs to tell me just how much she has learned to dislike (hate?) me, for 2 reasons: 1) so I really, really get that this isn't just a misunderstanding and that everything will be OK once I tell her I 'get it' now, and 2) because she needs to say it, to get it out of her system.

I'm not going to push her to let it all out. I don't know if I really want to know how much she dislikes me. Maybe it will make things worse.

I can see I'm still at the stage where I want to talk about me. However, the more perspectives I see on "our" situation, the more I feel I'm not alone and I'm understood, the better I feel. Hopefully that works for you too.