She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

I hope I did this quote thing right....
You said...

"I pretty much did the same thing. I sat my W down on the bed and read her off a list of all the things I believed I did wrong that made her hate me over the years just to show her I got it, I knew, I understood. I took the lion's share of the blame for our relationship going into the toilet and for her losing any affection for me she had. "

I would love to do that. I would love to sit my W down and apologize for my actions. But when is the right time to do that? Do I inititate a talk about the R? We have had a few talks and I have apologized, but I want her to understand that I am truly, sincerely sorry. I alsoo don't want her to think that because I'm apologizing, that she has to also. I'm not expecting her to say it's not all my fault and tell me how she messed up. I just want to let her know that if I don't fully get it, at least I'm waking up.