She left, came back, still loves OM, what do I do

[kirby]

OK, so I think I'm dealing with a lot of issues, asking lots of questions, and then both GH and TL focus right in on the real crux of my problem; I haven't let go of thinking about the OM. I didn't get a D when W first said she was going to him, why would I if she was in contact with him now? I know that's not what I want, really. I know I want to really give our M/R a shot to work.

Struggling to find that distance and perspective. It's been just over a month for me since she came back. Things are better then I thought they could be, given the situation (meaning it hurts like hell, but it could be worse). Just keep wacking me, please, until I get it.