Quote: The fact that he has NEVER told you the truth, or the whole truth, or owned any of it is not good long-term for your R and your trust.
Will he ever admit the truth? I think he would rather sweep it under the rug and forget about it.
Quote: Which is to say, you have been very strong in the face of a bunch of FOG, instead of real answers. Perhaps you need to get some. But not in a confrontational kind of way. I would venture to say you need a plan about how to talk, if you intend to, either from the wise ones here, a C, a DB coach, someone to help you be more objective and less emotional about it when you do confront your H to get answers and a plan. Instead of just floating along on more fog.
That is exactly it, I am floating along on the fog. I am the type of person that needs to know everything, in fact, my brothers tease me that I am a "reporter" cause when we talk on the phone they say I ask too many questions.
Quote: the fact that he works with OW (who has not even been confirmed to BE an OW by your H) is el-crap IMO. That job would have to go, go, go were it me. But you know, I'm Ms. Emotionally Controlled mostly.
Well I am also a member of the Ms. Emotionally Controlled club and I HATE the fact that he works the the "alleged" OW.
We have talked several times recently about his leaving that job, even us selling the house and moving somewhere else and starting over. Unfortunately, our finances are in such dire straits right now that moving is not possible but I do think it is possible for him to change jobs or even get a second job (so he has no time to hang around after work with her).
