Have you asked him what he's doing? Why not invite him out?

This probably won't be a popular answer, but if I really suspected something going on I'd do some sleuthing. I can't recommend you do this, but I happen to have an insatiable desire to know everything going on and if he was being very suspicious....

I'd either hire a private investigator, "tail him" myself (kind of tricky, but I have done this... even brought my grandfather's high powered binoculars along!!!!! So pathetic!), the other thing I've heard of is buying a very small voice activated recorder and duct taping it under a seat in the car.

I know these sound a little nutty, but not knowing the truth actually bothers me more than my husband having an affair. Also, my husband has lied to me waaaaay too many times.

But then, you also have to ask yourself... what if he is seeing OW? What then? What would you do? Give up? Leave or demand a divorce? I figure that until my youngest is 17 or 18, my feet are put.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.